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Old Jul 06, 2010, 07:05 PM
imamess65 imamess65 is offline
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Originally Posted by SheSabre View Post
Ima, I have to agree totally with Echoes and tell you that you need some psychotherapy really bad. Whatever is causing you to be this mean, even when you are drinking, is buried deep inside of you...then you take all your anger out on your husband. You need to go and let a professional help you to get to the very root of your problem, they will help you figure yourself out and eventually why you do this. I even believe that you drink to self-medicate and to avoid the truth about yourself, you might even already know what your issues are and they can even stem from your childhood... just sit down and think really hard, it might just pop in your head...who knows? First, before anything else, I would QUIT DRINKING!!! I don't see how you can enjoy drinking when it makes you so very mean and you ruin even family events, put it down and don't ever touch it again... or you really are going to lose your husband, everyone has a breaking point. Make some calls and find a psychotherapist with a good reputation, then make an appointment right away...they might even want you both to come in together. I believe the therapist will want to hear everything that your husband might have to say because it might enlighten them to what your problem is. All I know to tell you is to QUIT DRINKING NOW, go to a therapist, and if you can't say nice things to your husband...which also has must be the truth...then don't say anything at all, just bite your tongue until the ends falls off. I wish you GOOD LUCK, I hope your marriage can be saved, and you must be honest with yourself...especially if you are in denial about something...and GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!
Huggles,
She
Thanks so much! I know - I do not intend to drink again - EVER! (that will not be hard as I honestly do not drink that often) I knew that the other day writing this. Thankfully my husband has come home and has forgiven me. He even asked me to marry him again!!! Down on one knee and everything!!! He filled in quite a few of the blanks from that night too. I found out that everyone had a very nice time and yes, I did have a small spat with him but it wasn't has big as my sister's made it out to be. Whew ~ The worst part was that they kicked me out and left me locked up with no keys, money, or food for three days. I suppose I needed to be punished. I have plans to see the psychiatrist next week - hopefully we can get to the root of it. Biting my tongue seems to be one thing I'm not very good at - but I hope to through support and love be able to find inner peace and tranquility. I want to be a happy and peaceful person. This is truly the first step - right?! Admitting there's a problem, addressing it, and deeply wanting to change. I'm over those hurdles already! Let the healing begin!

Thank you everyone!!!