I've been married for five years and we've always had problems.
We were separated for a few months about three years ago. During that time, she fell in love with someone else. Then we got back in touch and back together.

She has been seeing this guy on the side since then. At one point, she moved in with him out of state and since that time, moved back in with me and then moved out again, this time not with him but somewhere close. He has since moved back in state and lives somewhere near her.

This has been the hardest thing I've dealt with in my life for the last three years and it contributed in a large way to triggering my mental affliction.

One thing that makes things difficult for me is that he has been violent to her at least once that I know of.

He suspected she was seeing me again and tonight just showed up at her place unannounced. He lifted her cell phone and wrote down my number. He called from her number and left a message.

The last time he called me, I didn't hear from my wife for six weeks. He had hit her right after he called me and she wanted to wait for the contusions to clear up before seeing me again for fear of what I might do if I knew he hurt her. She told me about it many months later.

I did hear from her later this night and he had departed without injuring her yet I know he's been threatening her conditionally...if she sees me again. But she's unwilling to attempt to get a restraining order or seek help from the police.

She has also kinda pleaded with me to never send the police out to her location because her landlord might take serious issue with the police showing up on his property.

It would appear there's not much I can do, except divorce her of course...get rid of her from my life. But when I took the vow "for better or for worse, till death," I promised to stay with her no matter what. It is now "for worse" yet I am going to honor my vows.