In My Opinion: it's BOTH. <font color="darkgreen"> For those who accept our support, who are healthy enough to realize that we can become a part of their plan for changing for the better, it is a support site. For those who are not wanting to change, are wanting to hear only agreement to what their distorted thinking allows, we probably become enablers. Either we support them, enable them, or ignore them. If we all ignore a member when all efforts of support are dissed, then they complain louder, mods listen and continue enabling, and the rest of us make a choice to put up with them or continue to ignore them. Perhaps those who don't want support will continue to see things only their way, and will either stay for the conflict they impart, or leave because they aren't being coddled. If they choose to stay and try to change - or at least hear others with a more open mind... who knows???

Let my comments not be construed to say that everyone here needs to agree with everyone else. Support comes from what WE know has worked for us, and /or others, and from encouragement to continue -or end- a behavior based upon OUR perspective. It doesn't mean we are right or wrong.

What happened to all that "I STATEMENTS" stuff, when I spoke "too general" and ppl encouraged me to only speak from MY perspective and how I felt etc etc etc??? Other members need to go back to that, imo. We need to say something like , "This thread is upsetting me" rather than "I hate the conflict this thread is creating on site." (Or better yet...ignore the whole thread and don't say anything! If it's really a bad thread, notify the moderator, don't voice your opinion in public... usually it's an admin issue anyway!) What's up with that? Just like for support of others, we enable, support, or ignore... ok, but don't bash.