I tried to talk about it with her but I didn't really know what to say, we were talking about so many different things over 40 minutes that the topic didn't go far. She did say she doesn't blame me for feeling the way I do, I have seen her since I was 11 so she knows all about our relationship, her addictions and abusive relationships, she even met my mothers then boyfriend and had a bit of an incident where he had to be escorted out of the building, so she has a pretty fair knowledge of
things!
We were discussing my BDD and the topic of my teeth came up, I was telling her how I wanted them fixed and that my mother only took me to a dentist when I was 8 years old, and never forced me to care for them properly, and when my adult teeth came through and were dodgy she didn't do anything. My therapist said that if she were my mother she would have taken me to a dentist and had them fixed up because that is what a proper parent would do. Actually, saying that has just put a thought into my head, maybe some of my flaws get to me because they subconsciously remind me that I wasn't taken care of properly. My teeth make me upset because they didn't HAVE to look this way, if my mother had taken me to get them fixed, a lot of my flaws might be caused from years of stress and exhaustion, and if I'd had a different upbringing and someone took care of me properly, and taught me how to care for myself, a lot of the thing I'm hung up about wouldn't be an issue because they wouldn't exist. I could be wrong, I don't know, but I think maybe that might be a small answer.
But yeah, other than that we never really talked too much about it.