"If this is the present, I hope someone kept the receipt" :-)

I trained myself to put up a "red flag" when I was conscious of something going on that I couldn't deal with at the moment. Then, when I was alone later, often in bed before going to sleep that night, I'd go back to the red flag feelings and find I had "saved" more of what was going on then than I was aware of and could look at/deal with it and practice dialog with it, etc. and report back to my T next session. Over time in therapy I got better at being better able to deal in the moment and had fewer red flag moments and better coping abilities until, finally (7 years later), I could deal with everything that took place in session at the time it was happening.