I am so sorry Amanda that you are faced with this. I lost my relationship 5 years ago in large part because of the BP symptoms and the havoc it causes in my life and the lives of everyone around me. For my partner in particular it was rough and while my heart was broken I could appreciate that his health was suffering too. It was not a healthy environment. The growing stress between us was adding to the pressures. He became diabetic and the stress of living with me and my symptoms made it that much more difficult for him to manage his diabetes. Fortunately we have been able to grow into a new friendship that is much more supportive then it ever was when we were together. I know my situation is probably the exception rather than the rule but I wanted to give you some hope that things will be okay. My heart was broken. I didn't want him to go but it worked out for the best.

Even though your heart is breaking you need to take care of business. Get some legal advice and learn about your rights. He will legally be required to support you and your children financially. If he can't or won't there are government programs that will help you out. You will not be homeless.

Now is the time to network in your community to find out what kinds of services and supports are available to you and your children. Assume the worst and hope for the best when it comes to wondering what your husband is going to do next.

If there is hope to save the marriage then work with him to do that if that is what you want. If there is no hope then accept that and process the hurt one day at a time while you prepare for life without him.

Being a mother first will help you find your strength. You are stronger than you think. You will survive. You and your children will be okay. Don't try to do this alone. Get help anywhere and everywhere you can find it. You will be okay.

My heart goes out to you.