Dear Birdy,
I have a way of trying to erase or at least ease the labels. It is slowly working for me. It is just a suggestion.
I don't even know whether you use the terms "my depression" "my anxiety" etc. I used to but I hit a point where my mind said "Stop it" I asked "stop what?" my mind replied "Stop owning the label" I asked "How do I do that? My mind said "Call it "The" depression, the anxiety, the panic attacks, the avoidance". I thought mind was rather smart to point these things out to me. So I now (even though I may forget sometimes), write and think "The" instead of "My"...
If you don't want to try this, I do hope you find something else that works for you,
Rhia