I think a lot of people mix up what SUPPORT means and what ADVICE means.....

More often then not I have found some of the fights so to speak and ill feelings happen when someone wants to give advice to someone who has JUST ASKED for support...and then they feel they weren't heard or that person isnt OPEN to help..when in fact they NEVER asked for more than some understanding....
I think a lot could be avoided if we looked for question marks...if we don't see them.....maybe read the post again...they may just want a shoulder..I have found this to be the case with me a few times and seen it with others