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Originally Posted by peaches100
T told me that the email did mean something to her. She thought it was lovely and felt touched. She does not know why she did not respond with at least a short acknowledgment, except for that she was busy and her sister being in the hospital. She understood, especially after we talked about my parents lack of response to things, how her nonresponse hurt me. She admitted it was insensitive of her and she was sorry i'd been carrying around this hurt for so long. She also told me that she had not been trying to push me away. She thinks it's important when we can share connection in a session.
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Peaches, this is something to keep and remember, a very special moment in therapy.
Interpreting the "meta-message" in someone's actions or response is so completely normal for women especially, and when your FOO typically communicated very indirectly. I've been working on how to not accept the meta-message I create, but instead to ask the clarifying question of the other person ("wait, did you mean ____?" or "could you say that again?")
I think you did great in finding out what T really meant!
