First off, I don't know if this is the right forum, but thie post would've fit into several of these, and I decided to go with the most populated one.

My long distance girlfriend is sufferering from a lot of issues right now. Just as a little background, I think many of them stem from abuse from her father when she was younger, though I really don't know anything specific about this, but he's gone now and she rarely sees him.

First off, she generally feels isolated, and tells me that she has almost no friends, which from the sound of it is really an overly pesimmistic view of things.

Also, she recently admitted to me that she cuts her arms, but tells me that in the past few weeks this has started to improve. However, once when I was talking to her recently and she got the impression that she was annoying me (which she wasn't, but I must've accidently given that impression) she started talking about playing with her knife, and what happened when she poked herself with it...obviously these issues are still there.

Also, I think she has an eating disorder, probably anorexia. Though I haven't seen her in several months, I get the impression that she has lost an excessive amount of weight (she was just slightly above average weight before)...she also often tells me that she is eating too much, and spends a long time each day walking. I should be able to verify this when I see her in a few weeks.

I have encouraged her on several occasions to see a therapist, as they could help more than I can, but she tells me she is too busy. When it next comes up, I'm going to suggest more strongly (really insist) that she find some time to do this next year, because I feel that would be the first step to sorting out a lot of these issues. I care about her a lot and let her know this, and I think this alone helps some, but I want to make sure she is healthy no matter what it takes.

Does anybody here have advice? Been in a similar experience? I need to know what the best course of action to take is.