Acrazynao,

Dont give up on your husband or your marriage yet. You are both by your own admission, depressed. This kicks anyones ***, and throw in the fact you are both depressed, makes it worse.

As you know the symptoms of depression are lack of motivation, depressed emotions, lack of sex drive, loss of zest for life, etc. It seems like what you listed about your husband is common in those depressed. He is probably picking up on how you feel about him as well.

You said you feel like his mother, so maybe there is a possibility that you do nag him? IDK, something to think about. I hope you would think about this, exhaust every effort to work on your marriage before just walking away. I wish you the best.