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I find myself asking this question a lot. My boyfriend and I had a great relationship. I could talk to him about anything and he always gave the best advice. (we were best friends for 10 yrs before we became more). He was always so patient with me and didn't shun me when I finally opened up about all the bad things that had happened to me in my life that i hid from everyone. We were so in love and friends, family, co-workers were jealous of our relationship. That all changed when I became pregnant. All we do is argue and on more than one occasion he has told me that he "resented me for making him a father". I can no longer talk to him about anything since he finds some way to turn it in to an argument. And even though I try to be the better person, at times I find myself in a shouting match. He has told me on more than one occasion that he doesn't what our child to grow up the way he did (parents always arguing, spending one weekend with one parent than the other weekend with the other), but yet he seems to take steps in that direction. We argue about how I won't let him take the baby by himself so they can bond (he has threatened to not bring her back to me, so i refuse to let him have her). I don't prevent him from seeing her. I allow him to come over when he pleases. Unfortunately this has lead to a heated discussion since i mentioned to him that he needs to arrive early and not at her bedtime, since she forces herself to stay awake so she can spend time with him. I feel that it is hopeless and I just want to give up on the relationship, but i don't won't to go through the custody battle. I know parents are suppose to make sacrifices for their children, but i don't feel as if i need to sacrifice my own happiness. I don't know how to fix the relationship. He thinks couples therapy is a joke. I don't know what to do, if there even is anything to do. If I end the relationship, i know i will feel guilty for not trying harder to make us a family. If i stay in the relationship, i feel guilty for keeping our little one in such a situation. I just don't know if we can ever get back to how it use to be!
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Don't care about all the pain in front of me, I'm just trying to be happy! 
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