Yes I can see your point... with not knowing somebody well it would be very difficult to know when to give the nudge. I was thinking of friends I have made here over time so yes you are right.

I think people offer advice with a sincere effort to help. I know sometimes I am not at a point where I am ready to move forward and the well meant advice creates a sore point. I feel sometimes like saying "just let me stay here for a minute and please just listen" When I feel that way I try and remember to voice that. Then later when I am ready to move maybe the advice is more welcome.

At any rate it is a hard line to walk between support, helpfull advice and enabling. Made even harder by the no face to face a site like this presents.

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