Sorry to say, but "child" support and visitation are not separate issues. They are only separate on paper.

If I can't pay child support, I am thrown in jail and unable to excercise visitation.

What if the ex gave me half the "child" support back under the table so that I can afford to eat in agreement to see my child less?

Think these things don't happen? Think again.

If I can't afford to pay "child" support it is always a "willful" situation in the eyes of the court. I am a second class citizen and that started when I lost custody of my child. If the courts were really fair, there would be a presumption of joint custody.

Failure to pay "child" support is a criminal issue. The ex can effectively have me locked up and thrown in jail without spending a dime.

Failure to allow visitation is a civil issue. You get to pay a lawyer thousands to solve your issue while you are already impoverished by paying child support itself.

Should you attempt to resolve this yourself without an attorney (even if you do have lots of knowledge about the law as I most certainly do) the ex will receive a slap on the wrist.

So let's summarize this. If I can't pay child support because I lose my job I will go to jail and it is a free service that is enforceable by the police.

The ex says no you can't see your child it is a civil issue that is enforceable by a slap on the wrist.

By the way, what on earth does your assumption that I want the best for my child mean?

Of course I want the best for my child. Equal parenting is best for my child. My child should be allowed to see both parents equally, not have to see me precisely one day less per year to ensure that the other parent can obtain "child" support. My child shouldn't have to sit on a milk crate when he visits with me or eat ramen noodles because I am too busy paying my ex money to do drugs or whatever the ex wants to do with the money.

By the way, I said that I would only report someone if they criticized my feelings about child support. Why would you even take that angle unless that is what you meant when you said...
"I assume as a loving father, you want what is best for your child."

I am against paying someone to take my child away from me under the guise that I am an unfit parent. I am against paying someone to impoverish me to the degree that my child can no longer see me or live a good life when he visits with me. Finally, I don't fall for the it's all about the child idealism. I was allowed to live a good life when society considered me a father, not a visitor. Now that I am a visitor and a child support payor I am not entitled to the same level of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness? Interesting....