Hey there lab,

It is hard when you are taught to be responsible for things over your lifetime. It is near impossible to simply "stop" feeling responsible. JD is right, there is no reason for you to feel that you were responsible but it doesn't work that way does it?

She chose to go, she chose to leave a safe place and go somewhere that she was at risk. Being a true friend you didn't try to influence her or bully her into not doing what she wanted to do.

Do you think you feel more responsible for the fight that caused the break up but are transposing it onto something else which was not your fault at all so that you can say "what happened wasn't my fault"?

I do hope that you can let this go dear lab...you don't deserve to punish yourself this way,

Rhian