I find upon self-inspection that I feel the desire to criticize someone when I need them to be intelligent, self-aware, and so on, and I feel that they are not. When I feel the need for them to help me in some way, and I think they ought to be able to help me, and they fall down on the job. When I don't feel the need, when I feel secure in my own beliefs, it is much easier to let them be whatever they are.