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Originally Posted by WendyAussie
Because Bipolar Disorder is such a serious illness and has real impacts on the various outcomes in our lives and our capacity to move forward, we need to look at these Valued Actions/Goals in a very flexible way - so we done feel like failures if we don't have progress, or even have reversals in someof the areas. And this also allows the whole list to be very fluid to allow for our changing wants, needs, strengths and shortcomings and the incoming stressors in our lives and also our brain chemical changes.
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Flexibility and fluidity, excellent point. Because like you say, since things change for us, it's important to let our lists change too! It would be so easy to get locked in to them and beat ourselves up over it (like we don't do that enough already!). It's almost like remembering to
allow them to change. That's how I would have to think of it (yes, "would"... I'm
terrible about goal-
setting let alone follow through. Just never look very far ahead at all. Never have. Not a good thing, but there you have it. I'm ok with *very* short term, like, say, getting out of bed and maybe doing the dishes, just not the ones that are at all longer term.)
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Originally Posted by blueoctober
"Instead of a lengthy list try just three goals and be proud if you master any. It is more than most do in a lifetime much less someone with an imbalance like us."
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Yes! So true. You know, in reading your first post, something jumped out at me. Try not to feel so disappointed. Why? Remember, you
found the list. Which means it was lost or at least out of sight, out of mind. Then how could the list even remind you of your goals?! Given that, not accomplishing them would be expected, so try to be gentle with yourself, ok?
