Valbends, some of us are meant to help others, to give them what they need, etc., but not to the point that we rob ourselves of what we need.

In a well balanced life, we have the time to take care of ourselves and our needs, like washing our dishes and clothes and also give to others. No one in their right mind expects you to not have needs. If they do, then they are not in their right mind. There's lots of people like that out there.

I hope you start feeling better real soon. I've felt like you do in the past but it sure didn't work for me.