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Old Jul 11, 2010, 02:03 PM
MooLove25 MooLove25 is offline
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Originally Posted by blueoctober View Post
Welcome moolove and good for you for wanting to find out more about Bipolar. To answer your question I don't know if it has to do with bipolar or just the person itself (i.e. lack of coping skills). I have bipolar and have been stable work wise, had long term relationships etc. etc. I had those things before and after I was diagnosed.

Certainly having bp can at times effect my perspective on things, but I also don't experience symptoms at all times. Thank God! I can suggest 2 great books "Loving someone with bipolar disorder" by Julie Fast and "The bipolar relationship" by Jon Bloch.

As far as your partner you didn't mention if he is on medication, abstaining from drugs and/or alcohol and seeing a therapist regularly. These things do help with managing the disorder. I hope that you and he both find peace and certainly honor your own feelings in the relationship. Good Luck and keep us posted!
Thank you so much for your reply. I have actually been reading the book by Julie Fast and it has been extremely helpful. My boyfriend is on medication, but I don't know which ones exactly. He did have a substance abuse problem last year, he also was not taking his meds last year, but finally did get back on them last September. He and I were not together during that time, we had been together and then broken up. This was when he started using heroin and not taking his meds. It was when he finally stopped that we started dating again. He is seeing a therapist, but I honestly don't know how often he goes.
I think he just has too much going on in his life. He works two jobs and plays in a band that he is currently on tour with. And now he is having issues with his ex and her wanting to control his life even though they are not even together anymore. But she can do this because they share a daughter and he does not want to lose his rights to her.
I understand how all of this is causing him an extreme amount of stress-and he just wants to move away as far as possible right now so he doesn't have to deal with any of it. But he will be leaving everything-his daughter, his family, his friends, and yes, me.