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Originally Posted by Shakti
Yes, this can definitely have a lot to do with it. More than anything it is wanting to run away from himself, from his brain, from his illness, from the way he thinks, from the way he perceives his life to be going and his lack of control over his life and what happens in his life. He may not know this or may not even have really thought about it, but that's likely what this is. And is in every way related to bipolar...and is just a way of dealing with not being able to deal with it. He's overwhelmed. Many of us are and much of the time.
There's not really anything you can do to stop him, per se, but it does sound like he needs some encouragement and guidance in the coping skills department. Does he get treatment? With meds or therapy, etc? It's a difficult thing to realize, but you are extremely limited in what you can do. It's mostly up to him. If he's not coping then therapy may be of great use to him because them its being up to him won't be something so unattainable.... At the moment the idea of this all being ultimately up to him to control/correct/handle may just be out of reach. But with the proper coping skills (and meds!!!) he may be able to get a better handle on it.
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Yes, I think that is it exactly-he definitely does not feel like he has control over his life. And he is stressed and overwhelmed. He always takes on way too much! And I try to tell him he has to slow down...just playing in a band like he does, it messes up his sleep schedule and always gives him stress. I want him to do what he loves but he needs to set limits as well.
I know he sees a therapist, but I don't know how often he goes. The other night he was telling me why he has to leave and how he doesn't even have anyone to talk to. I told him he could talk to me, but he said he meant someone who wasn't biased (such as me wanting to stay because I love him) so I asked him what about his therapist? And he said he couldn't call him at 10:00 on a friday night.
I then suggested a few friends who have never steered him wrong. So hopefully he will talk to them and try to get ahold of this therapist. Unfortunately, he is on tour with his band this week, so he is gone and I can't even see him.
Should I call him and try to encourage him to call his therapist? Are there any words of encouragement that I can say to him?
Mostly I keep telling him how much I love him and don't want to lose him and that I am here for him-I will be his rock, someone he can always count on. I try to tell him not to leave his daughter and his family. Is there another approach I should be taking?