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Originally Posted by Perna
I don't think anyone can give you tips on motivation for a job you don't like. I spent several years taking jobs with tasks I didn't like to train myself to do them anyway, whether I liked them or not. I don't think that has to do with parent's teaching, is a personal thing with what you like/don't like. I'm still mind boggled with a woman I worked with in the 1970's who loved pure data entry (mostly long numbers) 8+ hours a day.
If you don't want to go to school or compete for jobs you like/want, I think you either have to look at your other interests and change fields or put up with the jobs you have been taking and spend time with your family, which you appear to enjoy, but without spending as much money to have "fun".
I understand about the child support (my husband had alimony and child support for the first 11 years of our marriage); if I were you, I would start thinking of it as a pay raise in X years (when it's no longer payable), kind of like a cost-of-living increase and come up with a plan for what I'd do with that "extra" money at that time (instead of just rolling it into expenses/normal bills). I paid my therapist $800+ out-of-pocket each month for nearly 10 years and was thrilled with my plans for when we terminated. Use the discipline of paying the child support faithfully for your own mental/emotional support and training.
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Hello Perna,
It has been a while since we have chatted. You know exactly where I am coming from. In fact, I have figured out that I am going to take the "child" support money and go to fancy restaurants every month and blow it deliberately since the money was blown by the other "parent" on doing fingernails, drugs, etc. Heck, who knows Perna maybe you will inspire me to do otherwise. Still, you know exactly why I would say something like that. You know exactly where I am "at" so to speak and I am blessed to have you come in and talk to me about this.
Also, you drive a point as to my options as far as eating dog food (a.k.a) working jobs that I don't want to. At the bare minimum, I could always kill some time trying to get the closest possible job with wages that could barely get me over the hump. Your profile says Maryland so depending on where you are in MD you may just know about the DC rat race and the constant struggle between location, time, commute, and wages.
I do think that I should have been parented into being strong. I disagree there (but I am probably wrong too). I am sick of hearing how great my collegue's parents are. My mom and dad did this and that. I am tired of being jealous at how everyones parents help them out financially.
I wish I was the Marine for 30 years that everyone else around here seems to be.
Finally, I did not know that you could willfully take jobs that you don't want to train yourself to do them. Could you please expand? Wow thanks!