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Originally Posted by Shakti
The not feeling like we have anyone to talk to thing is also very common. In a way, it is true. Unless you are bipolar and have experienced this, you can try and try and try to understand it, but you cannot. You can on an intellectual, cerebral level, but this experience is far deeper than that. ...and even these words....oh man....there just aren't words.... I think he might also mean (when it comes down to it) that non-bipolar people cannot "get it."
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First off, hear hear!!! OMG, and
especially the depressive end of things. The pit is ... well, there simply
are no words to express it. What's worse (or at least more frustrating) is that people who don't experience it
think they understand. And I don't mean to get all like it's some kind of "exclusive club" or emo-y "misunderstood" (gag), but truly, they don't. They can't. It's not their fault, it's not lack of sincerity or caring, it's just that it's
not possible without this damned kind of brain wiring. Because those of us with this kind of brain wiring have experienced great sadness etc.(which
is the experience non-BPs relate to) as well.
But massive depression is a different beast altogether. Even the DSM. When I read the diagnostic criteria, I can only laugh. Like... that's all???!!! Sheesh I WISH that were all it was!!! It's merely the tip of the iceberg. And if I may be so bold, think it contributes to the problem of not understanding it. Say someone meets this criteria. They then think they know from depression. Not even. It's the mildest possible scenario. Ok. Rant over. (For now, lol. It's just something that really really really aggravates me. Which is unreasonable in a way. I know that it's
not their
not wanting to understand, it is that they
can't understand, through no fault of their own. Hence unreasonable on my part.)
And MooLove25, I agree it was an excellent idea in that situation to have him call some friends that never steer him wrong.
And please don't take it personally if he sometimes can't talk to you about it. It's not you. I know that expression is overused, but it's true. Sometimes we feel that we don't want to burden or bring down someone so close. Or that we need to give them a break.
I've been reflecting on your original post too. I've moved A LOT. I'm not
necessarily congnizant that I'm running
from something or being overwhelmed or stressed at the time, but... will have to think on this component more. I
do know that many of my moves have been completely ridiculous, impulsive and major (like across country -- several times -- and to places VERY far away that I'd never even been to and knew nothing about...). This tendency was actually a big factor in recognizing hypomania in my past (there were many others as well, oh yes). So, I don't know if this helps at all MooLove25, but there it is.