Sky, I'm with you right up to the last paragraph. I'm not arguing with you but I'm wondering if you'd clarify the "I Statement" comment.
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We need to say something like , "This thread is upsetting me" rather than "I hate the conflict this thread is creating on site."
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What were you told and how did you come to understand that it's better to address the "thread" rather than how you feel about It?
In therapy *I* was taught to make "I statements;" I feel, I think, etc. It shows "ownership" of the feelings and thoughts rather than blaming Someone. I choose to follow what I was taught about communication by a professional. Again, a reminder; I'm not arguing with YOU or your words. What I question is
you were told you were speaking in generalities and had to make it more personal, but when it came to your feelings or thoughts, you were to speak in more general terms?? To me, that's crazy making. Shed some light on this, would you please?
If you meant what I think you did, which was to ignore a thread if it bothered you, I can agree with that. We need to learn to take responsibility for ourselves; learn to take better care of ourselves and not pawn it off on the mods and Admin. (I expect to hear dissention on THAT statement! Not necessarily from you, though.

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