You mentioned that she was abused by her father as a child. Is it possible, even if the parents are divorced now, that her mother doesn't want all of that re-hashed in therapy? Whether she was abused physicaly, sexually or verbally and her mother did nothing to stop it, it could be that she is fearful of having blame placed on her, what else therapy might uncover, or just that she may feel guilty already if she did nothing to stop the abuse and doesn't want any more guilt or blame thrust upon her.

Whatever the reason, this should not be a factor in your girlfriend seeking help. Let her know that!

pebs

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