I think that is a healthy attitude. A relationship with a person diagnosed with bipolar can be a challenge at times, but really what relationship doesn't have it's challenges? Just try to keep things in perspective (I know it's hard) and try not to have the whole relationship revolve around bipolar. It's important for you to talk to someone about your feelings as well. Just because he is going through a crisis it doesn't mean that you don't have your own feelings that should be addressed.

I wish you the best of luck and as far as giving someone their space, I think you should honor his wishes, BUT I often have said that and it hasn't been the best thing for me. Sometimes certain modes of communication are better for me when I'm in major depression. Talking on the phone is brutal, seeing a person in person is brutal, but e-mail works because I can have time to think about my responses. I am definitely a person that requires more alone time than the average person, but when depressed I isolate myself and not having anyone reach out to me makes me feel even more worthless. Just a different perspective on this topic, because everyone is different.