Respectfully, I don't think that an individuals pride or shame is a valid way for me to choose what should be legal or illegal.

For instance, sixty years ago interracial marriage was illegal. If we were debating whether or not interracial marriage should be legal and someone asked, "Would you feel the same way if one of your children chose a black person to marry? If so, would it be a source of pride or shame to share your kid's spousal choice with your friends, neighbors and other family members?" I've no doubt that a mod would step in. Back sixty years ago societal norms thought it seemed like a pretty good argument.

Pride and shame come from societal programming.and society gets it wrong so very many times that I am extremely hesitant to use that as a yeardstick.