Well it is not N°2. He wouldn't try to touch me every time we meet (mostly shoulder grabbing). Maybe N°1 but since he made his point and I didn't seem upset (coz I had for some reason I can't explain a hard time believing him), so why coming back ???? And saying he wanted to see me even if he panicked and changed his mind later.
N°3 seems the most probable to me, but then why let go ? It is difficult, OK but not mission impossible. I think I can balance his character. I believe we compensate each other's "flaws". I might be wrong and kidding myself. I just wonder what I should do to make things go in some direction. What would you
do ?

P.S. He divorced 8 years ago and his girlfriend dumped him 6 years ago. So I know it is not going to be a piece of cake.