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Jul 13, 2010, 07:48 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2010
Posts: 348
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Originally Posted by KathyM
I don't either, but the moral issue got me thinking.  I wasn't singling you out. In general, parents and grandparents like to boast of their children's development and achievements in life.
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This is difficult for me because I do not think it is a moral issue... or rather, if it is a moral issue it is a contrived one, not an absolute one. You seem to be coming from a religious standpoint (which I very much respect) and so we would see this differently, For you, I believe, morality is an absolute as it would pertain to whatever religious documents or doctrines you ascribe to. From a secular position, it is a moral issue because we as a society says it is but it is much less absolute.
People think I am being obtuse or difficult when they ask me about my children and grandchildren and I respond differently than they like. For instance,
"What does your daughter do?"
"She is a loving, kind person."
"No, I mean for work?"
"That is her most important work."
But I'm not trying to be difficult. We show pride for achievements, money, education, 'things'. We brag about their promotion at work, the new house they bought or the vacation they just took but seem to ignore the fact that she makes her children feel special every day or that today she forgave someone who wronged her terribly. I have one daughter on welfare who struggles to raise two children and deal with her mental illness. I don't care what she does in life as long as she continues to be the wonderful person that she is. Doctor or stay at home mom - I remain just as proud of her.
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