I don't think you should feel stupid at ALL for trusting him these past months; he was your T and you SHOULD be able to trust your T. However, your T obviously needed some consultation re: his countertransference feelings for you, and not only did he choose not to go that route, now he is choosing to make the termination end in a negative way for you (as he runs and "hides").

I kind of feel sorry for him, too...being a therapist so unwilling to deal with one's own feelings and emotions is really sad. He should be able to "do better," first off, for YOU, but also for himself, because he is responsible for future clients and his other present clients as well.

Anyway, I am so sorry this happened. I understand why you might want to see a female T right now (that is a great, safe place to work through your anger, as is here, of course!), but don't let this one T turn you off of male Ts for life...as we have seen on this forum, some of them are pretty great...I know mine is! Hugs to you as you work through this and move forward to something much better!