hi lisa. i have read both of your other threads and i do wonder if it might be good to give your h a bit of space to work things out on his own. i know you mentioned he is quite afraid of confrontation and i wonder if giving him some room to breath might be good for him. he may feel a bit like a cornered animal right now with you and the authorities chasing him. i'm sorry, i know that's probably not what you want to hear but as someone who has also dealt with the fear of confrontation i am not sure your present course of action is going to help your relationship or him in the long run. sometimes people just need a bit of space and then dialog can happen later when they feel safer. jmo.