I think this relationship issue is so important that it really needs to be addressed in therapy. Both in the way you approch your relationships and how to reach your goal of marrying a man and having lots of children without hurting anyone else. As far as your sexual orientation, if the woman's family does not know that she is dating someone of the same sex, that is usually a deal breaker for me. How far could a relationship go? How would you spend family time? These are things to definately explore with a therapist. I just watched a video of my neice's wedding tonight...both her and her legally wedded wife were just beautiful! Best of luck to you!