FR, this relationship with this man sounds very dysfunctional. It sounds like you are co dependent - being more than willing to take care of someone else and not take care of yourself. This man sounds very selfish, that he wants you to only focus on him and not yourself at all. It was a good fit and met everyone's needs UNTIL you came to a point where you have to take care of yourself. A relationship like this is not healthy at all. People must take care of themselves. I'll bet you grew up like this, where you had to meet the needs of a parent and ignore your own needs and this parent never took care of your needs and expected you to take care of them all the time? If this is true it is very dysfunctional. Parents are supposed to take care of their children, not the other way around.

Please keep us posted as to how you are doing.