That's the crux of it I think; it's not about what you feel; guardianship does, in fact, take his rights away. That you are chasing after him and trying to wrestle him to the ground almost like he's a calf must look "odd" to many I think because my impression is that most guardians are reluctant guardians, it's very hard, heart-breaking work.

If you are successful, I don't think your husband will thank you, I would resent you, well or not, that I was "owned" by you and had to do what you say, despite what I say. I don't see any way to get back to "even", loving ground. If you are not successful, you could become depressed and bitter, especially at the "system".