Here is our story....
My partner and I were happy together. I can't even begin to tell you the way it felt to be with her. I'm not saying we didn't have our issues, but we were happy.
One of our issues is her ex-girlfriend. She won't let go. She is constantly trying to get her back. She is very manipulative, and knows exactly what to say to M (my partner) to make her doubt herself and our relationship.
M hurt her back a couple months ago. Now we find out that it's a herniated disk. It's not something that can be "fixed". She needs to have an MRI so that she can be put on Pain Management. She can't afford the co-pay for the MRI. But she won't let me help her with it either. I know that she hates the fact that I take care of most of the bills because I make more money than she does. I keep telling her we're partners, and all of our money is "ours". But she doesn't want to hear it.
The pain she is in is depressing her. She already suffers from depression (so do I). But the constant physical pain is bringing her further and further down. She's in that pit. Her depression is wreaking havoc on our relationship. I know that when those dark clouds start dragging me under, I reach for comfort. I usually go to bed, and I just want to be with her. That's my comfort.
Unfortunately, her ex knows just when to come in and start begging her to come back. Since they were together for a couple years, there is a familiar comfort there. So she starts doubting us. She starts thinking that she doesn't know who she wants to be with. I know its the depression talking, but I can't get her to understand that.
Now she's saying that it's "not fair" to me to have to deal with her in pain like this. It's not "what I signed up for" when I started dating her. She is saying that she needs time to think about what she wants in her life. And OF COURSE the ex is all over this, talking to her, spending time with her.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is advice, or help of some sort. I'm having a depressive episode over all of this. I think I'm losing it!