I really do know what guardianship means, if you had read my initial response to your post, you would see that I've actually gone through the guardianship process with a friend (I went to lawyers, court, doctors, everything with her and her mom) so I do know what it consists of. The thing is that you don't seem to understand, despite your personal desires, is that he is a human adult in the United States of America and therefore he is entitled to run his own life until he does things so bad that there is no other choice. I didn't say you were going to make him dance on demand, but maybe you aren't willing to accept the fact that he doesn't want to be with you. I've had situations where I not longer loved/wanted to be with people and I am sure my "change of heart" appeared abrupt to them. I know that I have had people "try to fight for me" when I just didn't want them in my life anymore. It wasn't out of some meanness or something, I just couldn't do it with them around anymore. See, if at those times they would have attempted to become my guardian, I would have been forced to remain with them when it was MY CHOICE to remain apart from them. I know that you are hurting but it doesn't appear as though you are taking into consideration that your husband, regardless of his illness, is actually allowed to change his mind. Maybe, as you have pointed out in other posts, he has changed and really do not want to be with you any longer? Forcing yourself onto him and into his life isn't doing a bit to help him and actually probably hurts and angers him. Look, I am going to try to refrain from posting anymore here on this thread, because I am not trying to mess with you, but I do want you to know that while his life effects you, it isn't yours. Its his. A lot of people make their marriage vows and then later on realize they don't want to stay. They aren't written in stone. He's allow to change and leave if he wants. He told you (according to all your posts) he wanted help a few months ago and now says he doesn't want your help. Just because you don't want to accept that, doesn't mean it's not true.