Dear Granite,

It is so very hard to find words to match feelings and then to even think of speaking those words in front of someone, especially when it was never safe for us to do so. I like Perna and Echoes' ideas. I was thinking that maybe you could draw a picture for her and label it and that could be the beginning of offering her words.

There are also some great books out now for children who were victims of abuse. I hope I am not being too presumptious in suggesting these but here's a link to Amazon.com. Maybe you could pick one of these books to read to T or have T read it to you. Down on the bottom of the page are books about various kinds of abuse.

BTW I used to write T long letters and could never even dream of reading them to him. Letters are meant to be read by the reader, not the writer!

Take gentle care.

http://www.amazon.com/Words-Hurt-Hel...ref=pd_sim_b_5