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Old Jul 15, 2010, 02:16 PM
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But it still feels like she wants to get rid of me. All I asked her to help me with was my anxiety around my professors. I never said there weren't other issues, but knowing there was only 12 sessions, I wanted to keep it to something simple.
Feelings are not always a very good indicator of current reality because they are usually based on past experiences which may not in reality be anything like the current situation. Especially when we haven't really talked it through with the person. When we start throwing our assumptions into the words of someone else without letting them define what they are saying, we open ourselves up for the hurt & stressful situation that you are going through. Before you assume that she is just wanting to get rid of you, you really need to let her express exactly where she is coming from & what she really is saying with her words.

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It makes me feel so alone. I don't understand why everyone hates me.
Again, when we start to generalize with our feelings, it leaves us open to so much hurt. I am sure that is you look at your life in reality, you would find many people who not only DON'T HATE you, but actually do LOVE you.....sometimes we have to look a bit but it's important, when we start to feel this way, to really look for the positive & loving people in our lives.

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Even my parents hate me. It was my birthday yesterday and they didn't call or email or anything. I feel so alone.
I am separated & moved 2200 miles away from everyone I know. I have no family (my parents died years ago) & I only have a daughter who lives 1000+ miles away. We don't communicate a lot either even though we do know that we love each other......birthdays go by without any calls also. At first it did make me feel so alone, but I am making other friends (who don't alway call on my birthday either)....but I have learned to enjoy my birthdays. I have learned over the years that my value as a person is not tied to that of the other people around me, but who I am in my world, the world around me.

Hope that some day you will be able to find peace in your life
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