((((((((((((((((Bobbi))))))))))))))))

Dearest You,

I wish I was there to give you a hug and tell you that it is ok for you to feel need, and to feel loved and appreciated. It IS ok for you to say no and put your arms around yourself and hug yourself.

Bobbi what a horrific life you had, and it takes years to get over things like that, sometimes it takes so much out of us just recovering that we feel drained and tired and sore from the trying.

Families and some others tend not to be aware of the pain of others when they want something themselves. But for you to be excluded from family gatherings is sad. They call you when they want something but keep you at arms length. My ex-family was like that with me. And I wasn't a raging loony, I always behaved appropriately and never drank alcohol (still don't). So I know how that makes you feel.

There is so much support and caring for you here Bobbi, never give up and keep ploughing through those things that make you angry you will win out over them eventually...

((((Hugs))))

Rhiannon