Hello, Bobbi. What accounts for the stress in the marriage? Is there anything specifically that you can attribute the renewed drinking to? Are you two generally civil to each other? Can you communicate about problems when he is not drinking? Do you love each other? Is joint therapy an option?

Does this article speak to you: http://www.healthleader.uthouston.ed...epingenemy.htm

If so, you need to have a plan to get yourself to safety if your husband becomes threatening or violent. Call here for assistance:

National Domestic Abuse Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Ideally, there will be a local safe shelter that has people who will help you leave if need be.

Another concern if you leave is how will you support yourself. Do you and your husband have joint accounts and joint credit cards? If there is trouble, invariable one of the joint owners empties the accounts and runs up the balance on the credit cards. You may want to consult with an attorney to familiarize yourself with your rights.

Of course I am talking worst case scenario. Nonetheless, it is most helpful to be prepared. I can still sense the cycle of abuse. I know you can too.

Take care of yourself, Bobbi.