hersterpayne,

First I'm not going to judge you at all for having your affair, it isn't my place to judge you at all, as it is not for others to do either.

I'd also suggest in a most friendly way, that those who have been cheated on not put the responsibility for their partner cheating onto you.

I was cheated on by my husband so I know what it's like but I'm not responsible for him cheating and neither are you, it was a decision he made on his own.

I think the most important thing here is not to leave your husband because you feel "unsatisfied" you do have a relationship and there is love there even if it is platonic. I really do think that you would miss your husband terribly if you were to leave him and I don't know that he deserves the pain of loss when he thinks you have just settled into a darby & joan existence together.

Friends can evoke different reactions and responses in us than our spouses can. We are more inclined to react favourably to friends than our spopuse. So I would honestly say think about it before you do something which may hurt you more than help you,

Rhiannon