WePow, it seems when we had so many neglected needs while growing up that they just seem so big today. With continued therapy you will get those needs the right size. There is nothing wrong with being needy. It is a part of healing. What happened to you while growing up wasn't right and the effects of that are still with you and this is why it continues to not feel right. You will work through all of this though until everything feels just about right. I'm not saying that you will never have problems again but the problems will be manageable and won't feel so overwhelming. So, anyway, what I am also trying to say is that when you grow up with so many unmet needs, they get so big and they need to be met NOW! This is so normal. It will get better and these things won't seem so strong. No one can perfectly meet these needs today and grownups need to meet most of their needs themselves (you need help sometimes but it is really up to you) EXCEPT for when you are healing like this. You need ALOT of help while healing but just remember that most of us have to wait and be patient for many things. Needs being met on demand is a fantasy. I hope I am coming across appropriately.