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Originally Posted by granite1
i have been seeing T for over 8 months and i guess she has decided it is time to put the pressure on
but i have no idea how to respond to it.
i want to please her because i can totally feel her frustration
i figure it is worth a session of pure hell if she wont be frustrated with me.
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Granite, where are your needs in all of this?
I know you were raised with your needs being nonexistent by the mother.
You need to respond according to what you need now.
When you were growing up you had to focus on what the mother needed to try to stay safe.
You, therefore, developed being outwardly focused on others. To be healthy you need to be inwardly focused.