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Originally Posted by Sannah
Granite, where are your needs in all of this?
I know you were raised with your needs being nonexistent by the mother.
You need to respond according to what you need now.
When you were growing up you had to focus on what the mother needed to try to stay safe.
You, therefore, developed being outwardly focused on others. To be healthy you need to be inwardly focused.
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sannah i really dont know why this letter i wrote is so important to her but she has brought it up in the last three sessions .belive me i will just dissapear and let her read it.she did this once with the other letter i wrote her.i'm just trying really hard to just feel she must know what she is doing.and for some reason this is important to her and i hope that she has my needs in mind with all this.i can sit through it in T,i'm really good at checking out, but my fear comes with the fall out after. when she is home enjoying her evening and i start to think about everything i herd her say in T.i cant write her another letter or call her or anything again ill just feel out of controle and scared