I agree rut or 7 year itch all the same to me. Being attracted to another when we are married is human we are not dead. It's what we do with it makes the differance. Using it, playing with it in your head or fantisizing about him to get stimulated I disagree with that being ok but that's just my opinion and I know it is not a well liked opinion. Takes much more creativity, time and comittment to come up with things to spice things up and much more pleasing and intimate then just fantasizing of another.
It is common after being married for a while that we end up getting so wrapped up in our everyday lives like bills, work, kids, friends, etc.... that we forget to do those things that use to come so easy to show each other we love and care for each other. Taking the time is very important.
larks