I agree about the responsability think, but I am still not sure about the girlfriend. My gut tells me there is none, BUT that he doesn't want to take responsability for what happens between us. That way, if it doesn't work out, he didn't do it ! "She stole the cookies, mum ! I didn't !!!"
Nevertheless I will behave as if I believed it. Unless he proves to me that there has never been a girlfriend, he's out.
Of course, since he used that as an excuse twice, it is a bit difficult to come and say: hey, was a joke. But that's his problem, not mine. Use your imagination, sweetie.
Let's say the girlfriend would explain a few things. But why doesn't anybody else ever mention the girlfriend???? Even by chance. In passing by. By mistake. In 8 months???? But I have heard several people call him a single man( including himself). So there must be a new definition out there for singledom, obviously shared by everybody (even the secretary said to me a few months ago that he was single, but I do believe he told her then that he wasn't single because he wanted her to tell me in order to get rid of me at that point. We just met and he was obviously panicked). I don't know where the secretary has the info from. Maybe from him !
I can't ask her. She hates me. She would like to see me dead.
I never see anything suspicious in his car. Gosh, in 8 months there should be SOMETHING in this car. All I have ever seen are a "Happy Birthday" card from his daughter, cardboard, an old T-shirt, tickets for the local swimming-pool, sweets, medication. OK there is a nice dragon in his office. Obviously a birthday gift. A female gift... From his daughter ? It is proudly displayed, so it is considered important. So far, only his daughter's photos and paintings have found their way into his office. Like a shrine to her.
Is this woman made of air ? Does he see her once a month ? Even my sceptical friends say: something's fishy here.
He didn't seem embarrassed when I talked about the girlfriend. Never a guilty look. Bravo ! If he has a girlfriend, give this man an academy award !
But you are right, I have to be cautious nevertheless. Actually it is a miracle I am still able to trust anybody after what I experienced so far (men and job). I shall triumph ! Right ?