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Originally Posted by WePow
(((( googley ))))) thank you. Actually, he has said things about me getting what I need from myself. So I think he would just be happy that I have the new rule. He thinks it is making me mature on the inside I suppose. But that is what I had to do my whole life anyway. So right now I just see it as another affirmation that others outside me just want me to be independent. My mom was like that... she thought she was doing what was best for me by forcing me to emotionally handle things on my own. So I guess that is what he is doing too. I see them as being the authority so whatever they do and how they do it must be the right way. And since it is coming from different directions and different people throughout my life, I take it as something I just need to learn.
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WePow-
You can be independent and also know when you have to ask for help from others. Being independent doesn't mean that you never need help. Learning to take care of yourself is about knowing when you can do it on your own and when to ask for help. I find that having hard and fast rules about not asking for help is actually detrimental to me being able to take care of myself. I end up letting myself slide down into such a funk that other people notice and force their help on me (ending up in help in ways I don't want). This ends up with me in so much more pain before getting help. So please don't turn your back on help. Supporting yourself is good. But not to the point where you can't get any help. Please talk to your T before you finalize this decision.
