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Originally Posted by sanityseeker
Thinking about this discussion I am challenged to consider how could someone help me cope instead of me doing what I do alone. Would it help to talk to someone? Would it help if someone came over and distracted me for a while? How could someone help me manage coping with all this anxiety.
If I answer people honestly when they ask how I am doing or how I am feeling I too often get those answers like 'Oh I get that way sometimes, you should just.....' Then I feel like crap since their remedy doesn't seem to work for me
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Sanityseeker, I agree that it's tough knowing who can handle what's going on and perhaps the first step is talking to a therapist.
I soooooo hear you with the "you should just do this, that". It's very innocent and most likely comes from a place of caring. Prior to being diagnosed I would read every self help book to "fix" me and nothing ever worked. My friend at the time would say just "live in the moment". I felt like a total failure because I couldn't fix me. There is a difference between mild and major depression and for many people he or she cannot understand it until they have experienced it. I recently cut off a long term friendship because she told me that she was "tired of her husband's depression and either he could get on board with life or she would live it without him" The final nail in the coffin of our friendship was when she declared she believed her husband felt "superior to everyone else" when he was depressed. Mmmmmm superior yeah I can honestly say that I have never felt that when depressed, but worthlessness definitely! But I digress LOL!