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Originally Posted by Perna
Talk to Tony. It's not good to guess what another is thinking and feeling. What you want is just as important as what he wants but, being married, you should have communication going and help one another with each person's desires and problems?
Do you have a therapist, Roxy? I feel badly that you have just shut down your physical side because of what happened to you as a child. You don't have to feel bad, can find some healing if you want so giving to Tony isn't as upsetting for you. Every person and couple is different; whether there's more or less sex can have a lot to do with the relationship between the two people; there is no "normal".
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I will try talking with Tony about my feelings but I think he knows. I'll talk to him about trying to change. We can communicte very well about everything else that comes up except for sex, I have trouble with that.
Yes I do have a therapist, she knows about my past trauma. But I never did tell herr about my present situation with sex, it seems so trivial to me, so unimportant...but I guess you are right, if Im questioning it then it must be more important enough to me to try and talk about it with my therapist. Thanks again for your response, it is really appreciated.
Sincerely,
Roxy
