a most timely post _Sky.

a couple other things to remember about forgiveness is that we all work at our own pace. some ppl expect forgiveness just because they asked for it. takes time to work through the issues to a point of resolution.

the person asking forgiveness needs to remember that they can only control their own reactions............not the reactions of others. and if others are NOT receptive to being asked for forgiveness then move on and perhaps try again after some time has passed.

everyone has their own ideas about what forgiveness means to them. the list you posted above adds some very helpful ideas to keep in mind when working with this concept.

time. we think time is a major factor for those who expect forgiveness immediately upon asking for it following whatever transgressions led to the hurt feelings. give others time to process what has taken place. the passage of time helps more than almost anything we know........that and working very hard at understanding interpersonal dynamics and that often they do not work out how we hope or plan. ah the unpredictability of life........sigh.

thx _Sky.