An update on this:

The Youtube reply turned into a conversation between Deanna and I, and to our suprise it went well, at least for the situation. She did feel upset about not being there for Brittany when the ab*se was happening, and I don't think we'll get lucky enough for her to ask for one of us again (although Brittany thanked her for speaking to me and ask if she'd please do it again so we don't know), but she did ask questions and she did speak to me!

So, although there is hope, could we now ask how to continue moving her on the path to acceptince without being so harsh?

Thank you.

(Webber)Erik